weathered man #drjohnaking

A Weathered Man

The thought behind this work is life may ‘bronze you but doesn’t have to burn you.’

You might be ‘calloused and torn,’ yet you can still retain ‘the softest touch’.

I think this is important for everyone in recovery to know, men in particular.

Men allow their hearts and attitudes to be hardened and callous, especially if their abuser was a woman. I just refuse to live that way. The women who abused me where a small part of the population, not a full representation of it. I have two wonderful daughters and a magnificent young man of a son. I have done my best to ensure my daughters walk the earth with grace and dignity, my son with strength and honor.

There is simply no room for bitterness and victimhood, it is not the way of fulfillment and purpose.

Another underlying theme is the healing power of belief and acceptance. The fisherman’s woman loved him and accepted him. Loved him for who he was and what he did, accepted him and the limitations his life had placed on him. In return for giving him grace to be who he was, she became his everything.

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  • Darlene J. Harris
    July 20, 2015 at 3:00 pm

    I really like what the writer says in this poem. I know we, as women, have to learn to extend this special grace in the lives of our men Thank you!

  • sevoiland
    August 9, 2015 at 6:39 pm

    This is how love is supposed to work. Two people in love don’t need acceptance from anyone but for the other. Your poem is so sweet.

  • Joy Johnson
    October 4, 2015 at 9:50 pm

    Thank you for coming forward. Your work help so many men…..and women.

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